The Mood RingWords our grandmothers didn’t have
Boundaries
Protecting your peace, without controlling anyone.
What it means
A boundary is a limit that protects your time, energy, body or feelings. It’s about what you will do, not about controlling what someone else does.
“You can’t talk to me like that” is a request. “If you keep yelling, I’m going to leave” is a boundary.
What it can look like
- Feeling resentful after saying yes
- Over-explaining when you say no
- Feeling guilty for having needs
- People being surprised when you finally speak up
One thing to try
Use one clear sentence: “I’m not able to ___. What I can do is ___.” Say it once, then stop talking.
Where the term comes from
Boundaries are a core idea across many schools of therapy and family systems work.
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