The Mood RingWords our grandmothers didn’t have
Superwoman schema
The pressure to be the strong one, always.
What it means
The superwoman schema describes a set of expectations many Black women carry: to always appear strong, to hide emotions, to resist being vulnerable, to succeed no matter what and to take care of everyone else first.
It has helped many of us survive. Research also links it to higher stress and to putting off our own care.
What it can look like
- Being the one everyone calls, and having no one to call
- “I’m fine” as a reflex
- Feeling guilty for resting
- Taking care of everyone’s needs before noticing your own
One thing to try
Say one sentence this week: “I need help with ___.” Let someone show up for you.
Where the term comes from
Nursing researcher Dr. Cheryl Woods-Giscombé developed the superwoman schema framework in 2010.
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